October 29, 2006

 

Blog Carnival Against Child Abuse: It's the Fifth Edition!

Welcome to the fifth edition, October version, of the Blog Carnival Against Child Abuse. Today is Monday, October 30, 2006. (Okay, I admit my ignorance. How do I change the post date when I finish a draft I started the day before?) Since October is Halloween and "Fright Night" month, I asked for some submissions about overcoming fear. I got one. I'll start the edition off with that.

Please use caution when viewing these linked posts. Child Abuse is an ugly subject. It is up to us to shine the light on this darkness, but it may be triggering for some. Use care.

April Optimist at Thriver's Toolbox offers some insight on survivors overcoming fear in her post, "What it Takes to Be Happy."


I also received a Halloween submission. It's from Dr. Deborah Serani and it's entitled, "Happy Stigma-Free Halloween." Dr. Deb remarks, "This post looks at how mental health can be further stigmatized by Halloween." I think the post is appropriate for abuse survivors. Like other mental healthcare recipients, we are often ridiculed, shunned, punished and/or penalized--often, simply for having the courage to get the recovery assistance we need to heal.

This month we've actually got four Survivor Stories. I usually have to scrape around to get these, but we've got some brave bloggers coming forth with their own stories this time. Kudos to you all!

Three of these courageous blog writers of Survivor Stories are New to the Blog Carnival Against Child Abuse. We have eight new carnival participants in all this month! Exciting, huh? Please visit their blogs and make them feel welcome, won't you? I'll flag their post entries so you know which ones they are.

Survivor Stories

First, we welcome back Emily from Doing It All Again. The post she's written is called, "Submerged Memories Resurface."

Next, we have our first *New* Blog Carnival contributor, Karma, at
JewBu Quest, the Jew Exploring Buddhism blogspot. Not only is this a survivor story, it is an explanation of the quest and is aptly named, "What Is The Quest?"

Also *New* is
The Baggage Handler, with the blogspot of the same name. I received this entry back in September--apparently it did not make the last edition deadline. I'm happy to include it now. This survivor story is simply called, "Tension." I think most of us can relate to a title like that, don't you?

Last, but certainly not least in the Survivor Stories category, is
Baggage That Goes With Mine (also with a blog by the same name). Interesting that we have another blogging survivor with a name that includes the word, baggage. Hhmmm...I've heard the term somewhere before, along the way on this recovery journey. This is our third *New* carnival contributor. This entry has been sitting in the carnival coffers since August. I apologize for the delay. Thank you for your patience. The post is called, "No One Would Blame You" and the contributor remarks, "I am a sexual abuse survivor who adopted a 9 year old abused and neglected child from foster care."

Poetry

Brian, or "Hummingbunny," is a prolific poet. I always look forward to his poems. The poem he submitted is quite meaningful. He says, "This is a poem, a breakthrough poem for me that I wrote when I finally understood that my friends loved me. " It's from his blog,
Truth Is Freedom (which has recently moved to Wordpress). The poem post is called, "It's like trying to chase your tail, all you do is get dizzy."

Madd, another *New* contributor, has the blog called Maddspace. She has contributed a poem of sorts called, "I am, We are, Survivors." She remarks, "This is posted under poetry, however I like to call it a life statement...Our Life statement."

In The News

My dear blogging friend, Marcella Chester, is a prolific advocate and writer for many causes. She is the blogger who introduced me to blog carnivals. The post I've chosen for her entry this time is called, "The Sexual Education of Mark Foley." It's from her blog--a name I love--called, Abyss2Hope. Marcella remarks, "This post shows the need for children to get sex education from someone other than an abuser. "

Did you know, dear bloggers, that you can nominate a blog post for submission into our blog carnival? Well you sure can and I received one from Marcella. It is a blogger *New* to me and her blog has a wonderful name: View From The Sandbox. She has also written about the Mark Foley Scandal. I didn't get any remarks from this nominated post, but in the sandbox permalink, the author states, "This topic truly strikes a chord with me." The post is entitled, "Foley Scandal: How Letting the Attack Dogs Blame the Victims Plays to Past Victims."

Another news item comes from my friend WW, a past host of our carnival, at PTSD Today. For her post, CNN.com - Teen pushes change in youth sex offender laws - June 9, 2005, she simply remarked, "Great Courage!!"

April's post that I put under the Halloween "Fears" category could have gone under "Healing & Therapy." I did not, however, receive any other posts for this section this time.

Aftermath

I've got three entries for the Aftermath category. Two of them are new carnival bloggers. But, the first I'll mention is an old hand at this: Mike at Child Abuse Survivor. I'm hoping he's still interested in hosting the sixth edition of our carnival in November. What Mike has submitted this time is a powerful, open and insightful post called, "The Power of Touch."

Now we welcome another blogspot therapist, *New* to our carnival. Her blog has a name that tickles me: Everyone Needs Therapy?. She's got a question mark at the end, but I think I'd put in an exclamation point. In this world, I think everyone does need some form of therapy. I'm no expert, doctor or therapist, of course (just my humble opinion). Her post talks about a type of abuse that shouldn't be overlooked: "Humiliating Others-Deliberate Abuse that Cuts Deep." Her submission remarks were: "This post explores humiliation, why parents emotionally abuse their children in this way, and why children pass these borderline traits along to their children. "

I want to also extend a warm welcome to *New* carnival contributor, Heather at Chaos & Order. She has submitted a post called, "Chaos & Order: Effects of Abuse on Children." In her remarks, she states, "This was part 1 of 2 on the effects of child abuse... and was the first time I posted anything on abuse, knowing that my father would see it. "

Advocacy & Awareness

Our last *New* contributor is Tracie of From Tracie or, Where I Was Today. She has submitted, "Stop Online Sexual Abuse of Children!" Yes! Please, let's stop! It literally makes me sick that our world keeps coming up with new ways to abuse kids. Let's keep shining the light! Thanks, Tracie, for doing your part.

My dear friend, Jumping In Puddles (or JIP as I fondly call her), at Life Spacings, has submitted an important awareness post. It's about learning more about DID--Dissociative Identity Disorder (formerly called Multiple Personality Disorder). It is another post that's been sitting in my coffers for a while. I hope JIP will forgive the delay. It's not because I think this issue isn't vastly important; I do. I urge you to educate yourself about this coping mechanism that amazingly strong, courageous survivors of extreme abuse create in order to survive. It is not nearly as rare as previously believed. In fact--it reminds me of the "False Memory Syndrome" scandal--many claim that it doesn't exist at all and/or is now over-diagnosed. This doesn't take away from the challenging reality that my friends like JIP must live every day of their lives. The post is called, "lifes spacings: Helpful hints in learning about D.I.D."

Last but not least is another post from WW at PTSD Today. I've got to give her two posts this time. She is such a thorough and prolific researcher and writer. I've got to double up on her or some of her posts will get moldy waiting around in my carnival coffers. This is a post from June about the Objective Documentation of Child Abuse. Here, WW remarks, "This article was published in the American Journal of Psychiatry, December 1997. Dorothy Otnow Lewis, Professory of Psychiatry at NYU, conducted the most thorough investigations into the allegations of child abuse by 12 murderers on death row. All 12 had been diagnosed with Dissociative Identity Disorder. This study corroborates the stories, and provides a strong premise that DID does exist. " (How appropriate that these last two posts should end up together!)

This didn't turn out to be a slap-dab, last-minute, lean carnival at all! Thank you, all, for your wonderful participation. I think we are doing a great job of spreading awareness and increasing the reach of this carnival.




Comments:
Thanks..Marj
 
Afternoon Marj,

Wonderful job with this edition of the carnival!!! Too bad it was all last minute. ;)
 
Dear Marj,
Thank you for including me in your carnival. I hope that I can contribute often. It makes no difference how well parents try to protect their children, their a vulnerable population.
The stories and information here are well-worthwhile and I will be recommending your blog (and Marcella's) in a post of mine soon.
All the best, Linda
 
Hi everyone,
Looks great Marj, take care
 
Linda: Thank you, thank you and thank you. I'm glad you're participating.

Holly: Thanks for the support. I'll stop by and see what you've been up to. Heard you were on the radio, but didn't find out 'til after the fact. Hope it went well.
 
Holly: I went to your blog but couldn't leave a comment because the graphic for the word verification wasn't showing up. This happened to me earlier today on Dr. Deb's blog. Oh great, another way for Blogger to mess up! Lovely!
 
Marj,

Thanks for your efforts, I am still planning on hosting next months carnival, no worries!
 
Alright, Mike! Yay! I know it will be great.
 
Another wonderful carnival. Thanks for putting this together.
 
Boy, these comments are "showing up" in weird order. Didn't mean to ignore anybody.

Madd, Brian & Marcella: Thanks for the comments. Thanks for the kudos, kind peeps! :)
 
Great job on the Carnival. Way to go getting it up in time! And thanks for including me in it. Maybe next time I'll even come up with something new.

Heather
 
Well done Marj on a great carnival. Hope you are ok.

Sorry mine appeared from last month's. I thought you were referring to the one I wrote about parenting following abuse. D'OH. Sorry for that.
 
Heather: Hope you can continue to join us anytime--whether you have something new or not. It's always new to the carnival....
...unless I goof up and put in a duplicate that I forgot to delete. Sorry, Emily. That wasn't your fault--I was the space queen. Oh well, it went up so fast, if that's the only thing that fell through the cracks, we're doin' good! ;)
 
Excellent post Marj, and thank you for your work for a great cause!

- Matt
Empathy
Feel free to visit my new Blog
http://sharecompassion.blogspot.com
 
Matt: It's so wonderful to hear from you. I just took your old site off my sidebar links recently, when I saw it was no longer working at all. I was so sorry to do that. I'll be over to check out the new site for sure (another great name, BTW).
 
marj-thanks for all the hard work putting this together and for including my post!!
 
good site
http://www.childplanet.us/
 
Paul M. McLaughlin
Elizabeth SEVEN McLaughlin
Stop Child Abuse NOW!
298 Hunington Ave
Eugene, Oregon 97405-4055

http://www.efn.org/~scan
scan@efn.org

OCTOBER 13, 1975

PAUL AND HIS WIFE, ELIZABETH. FUND RAISING FOR ABUSED CHILDREN AND TIME
CAPSULE FOR THE YEAR 2047.
http://www.efn.org/~scan/paulpics.html

WEB PAGE:
http://www.efn.org/~scan

TRUE SHORT CHRISTIAN STORY ABOUT PAUL FROM A MAGAZINE WITH MUSIC IN
BACKGROUND:
http://www.geocities.com/Heartland/Hills/6100/story5.html

In 1975, at the age of twenty-five, Paul Marvin McLaughlin began his
One-Man Advocate, "Help Stop Child Abuse NOW," from Donora, Pennsylvania
(Pittsburgh) and Portland and Eugene, Oregon (Pacific Northwest).

In 1970 Paul graduated from Donora High School at the age of 21 because he was classified as a slow-learner and placed in SPECIAL EDUCATION.

He was was born on October 13, 1948 in Donora. Paul tells his story in his own words as he begins describing his SEVERE childhood abuse along with his twin sister, Paula. His older brother and sister were NOT abused.

In 1948 and 1950, Paul almost came close to death from childhood abuse.

Paula, have about one more year to live because lost of one kidney from
stones and now having problems with her last kidney. Now someting is wrong with her brain. Paula was in and out of a comma a few times during her illness since 1970's.

Tears will fill your heart as Paul leads you down the path of such
terrifying abuse as being placed upon a hot stove, being beaten with a belt or stick without wearing clothes, and having his head split open with a spike shoe. UNFORTUNATELY THE HORROR OF ABUSE CONTINUES. Paul almost
lost his life TWICE.

Paul has spoken of his story
on 10 talk-radio programs, a television commercial in Oregon, in three magazine articles. He spoken at 20 open forums across the United States and that includes the Washington and Oregon, with those who specialize in child abuse and domistic family violence.

He has
volunteered and worked with other nonprofit organizations. He shows the people in many communities how to contact proper agencies for assitance for drug and alcohol abuse, homelessness, runaways or physical abuse.

Many lives have changed as the direct result of Paul's advocacy and his love of children.

STOP CHILD ABUSE NOW is a nonprofit organization dedicated to stopping child abuse of all forms, and improving the lives of survivors of all types of abuse and loss.

IN 1999, PAUL BECAME ILL WITH MULTIPLE SCLEROSIS AND HAVE EPILEPSEY FOR 25 YEARS. PAUL IS NOW PARTIAL PARLIZED FROM THE WAIST DOWN TO THE FEET, VISION LOST IN RIGHT EYE, BACK SPINE TO THE BRAIN IS BAD AND MANY OTHER HEALTH PROBLEMS.

PAULA McLAUGHLIN IS ILL AND HAD LOST ONE OF HER KIDNEY FROM HAVING KIDNEY
STONES SINCE 1975. PAULA HAD LOST ONE KIDNEY AND NOW THE DOCTORS SAY THAT SHE EXPECTS TO HAVE MORE STONES IN HER ONE KIDNEY. AS OF NOW---PAULA ALSO HAVE SOME FORM OF GROWTH IN HER BRAIN AND EXPECTS TO LEAVE THE PLANET EARTH WITHIN 2 YEARS.
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i'm glad i found this blog and am linking back to it on my blog-page.

http://www.lustredesigns.com/blog.htm
 
Thanks for visiting!
 
Hi
This is maxi,In 1970 Paul graduated from Donora High School at the age of 21 because he was classified as a slow-learner and placed in SPECIAL EDUCATION.

He was was born on October 13, 1948 in Donora. Paul tells his story in his own words as he begins describing his SEVERE childhood abuse along with his twin sister, Paula. His older brother and sister were NOT abused.

In 1948 and 1950, Paul almost came close to death from childhood abuse.

Paula, have about one more year to live because lost of one kidney from
stones and now having problems with her last kidney. Now someting is wrong with her brain. Paula was in and out of a comma a few times during her illness since 1970.
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maxi

Drug Treatment
 
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