July 27, 2011
Oh well. I haven't had the energy to do all my survivor advocacy stuff I used to do in the blogosphere, either. So I guess it's just one of those trade-offs of life.
As many of you know, my son has special needs and raising him has brought me the most love I have ever experienced, yet tested and challenged me more than I think I can bear sometimes. Up until recently, my son has not had much of a social life, in real life anyway (outside of gaming online and Facebook). Now, this summer, he has started to hang around kids who have way too much freedom, are smoking, doing drugs, etc. He finally feels accepted and I have always longed for him to have that and I know how important it is. I just hope he can come to realize the value of feeling accepted by kids who show more responsibility, make better choices and have stronger values.
So, with the help of his therapist, we've had to come down pretty hard with structure and consequences around here. We now have to up this part of the parenting game even more, as he just came back with dirty results on a recent UA for pot. I wouldn't be so upset about it if he were in college or something...but he is only 14 years old!
I feel amazingly fatigued just sharing this much right now. I'll try to get back and share more later. Any positive vibes, thoughts and/or prayers that any of you can send out there right now would be greatly appreciated.
You have been thru and dealt with sooo many things, I'm sure you'll tackle this one.
I feel your pain, been thru it myself.
Just want you to know that I'm thinking of you. Hang in there sweetie. xoxo ~Tia
We all know being a teenager essentially sucks -except for those few golden "popular" kids. Just keep communicating with him. Let him know your expectations (no drugs), but also let him know what an awesome kid he is, remind him of how well he does some certain thing (even if it's just that his smile makes people happy), and praise him even for the smallest accomplishments.
You'll be the mom who instills positive thoughts inside your child's mind. Positive thoughts that will encourage, comfort and support him through these difficult years.
There will be lots of bumps in the road. He's growing up and trying to find his way into adulthood. Be confident in all the proactive steps you are taking, and be confident in him. He will make mistakes -lots of them, little ones and a few big ones. But his mistakes will not define him.
He can and will grow into a healthy, happy young man. Keep faith in your son's abilities and in your love, guidance, perseverance as his mom.
Tia: So nice to "see" you! *hugs*
Those teen years are hard, but I know you are a great mom, and y'all will get through this!!
I'm praying for all of you!
Sorry to hear the last few months have been so challenging. Teenagers are rough on a good day, impossible on a bad.
I don't have kids myself, but I teach teenagers so I know sometimes you can only take one day at a time.
Glad to see you posting again!
Adventures in Anxiety Land
I've already created a website to help people overcome sexual abuse through the tools I've been using to overcome the effects that I've experienced on myself.
If you keep on having the desire to live the amazing life you deserve and you are able to create nothing can stop you :)
For me to acknowledge this desire and to make little steps every day to go for my dreams are the key.
And also ask for help each time I need to.
Lots of love,
Please give us an update on your life....
i have thought of you so many times and now i know those were promptings and proddings which i did not follow.
know that you are in my heart and that i think of you. i will listen and follow my inner voice, please forgive me. i want to be there for you, please let me know how.
my son is 22 this Sunday and it is just this past year through a new friend that God brought to our lives that we realize he had aspbergers all along. my new friend has a son the exact age and we are just amazed at what a difference understanding our son has made for us, it is truly a miracle. my heart is with you.
I hadn't been to my website's e-mail inbox for a long time and I had 160 messages to wade through there. Today is a therapy day, so I may have to catch up tomorrow or over the weekend.
Thanks again and healing blessings to all!
This is such a wonderful timing which you have face,,,,,,, learn from it for your success.......
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